13 Oct, 2017

Try This: The Story of Me, The Story of Us, The Story of Now

By Nicole Clark, LMSW|2021-08-19T19:57:47-04:00October 13th, 2017|Categories: Speaking & Facilitation|Tags: reproductive justice, Try This|0 Comments

“The Story of Me, The Story of Us, The Story of Now” is a reflective call to action process that frames our experiences, highlights the commonalities of our lived experiences, and connects our stories to the current social climate to promote action. I first learned of this process from Jamia Wilson. Jamia shared it with me as I was preparing to speech related to young women of color several years ago.

Here’s what you need:

Sheets of paper
Something to write with

The steps:

This process connects your personal story to current problems our communities are facing, and to the larger vision of a world we want.

Using the topic of Reproductive Justice:

The Story of Me: Share your story of how Reproductive Justice connects with your identities. Use a personal story that brought your attention to various reproductive oppressions and injustices.
The Story of Us: Share the current state of how reproductive injustices are impacting your communities. Use prompts such as “We live in a world where…” or “When I look around my community, I see…”. This can be related to policies that do more harm than good, lack of sex education in your school, or historical or current events such as the shackling of pregnant prisoners during labor and delivery or involuntary sterilization of women of color
The Story of Now: Share your vision for reproductive freedom. Use prompts such as “We will have reproductive justice when…” What would be the end game to have Reproductive Justice? What would that look like in your community?

You can do this process alone or in a group. If in a group, have participants identify the commonalities in their stories and develop a strong call to action (CTA). Try this exercise and let me know how it goes.

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16 Aug, 2017

Self Care Corner: Face Your Worst Case Scenario

By Nicole Clark, LMSW|2021-08-19T19:55:12-04:00August 16th, 2017|Categories: Self & Community Care|Tags: Self Care Corner|0 Comments

If you’re someone who, in the words of Gabrielle Bernstein, has a tendency to future trip, this Self Care Corner exercise is for you.

We all have things that we worry about, and oftentimes thinking about what could possibly happen causes more anxiety than the thing we’re worried about.

Over the weekend, I read a blog post by writer and law of attraction coach Kelli Cooper of Life Made to Order. Kelli writes:

One of the best ways to clean up your energy is a willingness to receive all outcomes. A willingness to accept the things you fear worst may happen. A willingness to believe that maybe those things have to happen in order for you to make the shifts required of you. A willingness to believe that even if these things happen, it’s still all good and you’ll be okay.

I started thinking about an issue that’s been causing me a great deal of stress over the past few months. After giving myself time to wallow in self pity and thinking about the worst thing that can happen, I took out a small notebook and began to write.

When an issue is stuck in your head and has no way of releasing itself, it can seem overwhelming.

But when you stop running from your issue, turn around and observe it with non judgment, what once seemed insurmountable begins to look like something you can deal with.

This is a process you can do alone, or (if you’re a social worker or someone in the helping professions) walk your clients through it.

Here are 9 questions to ask yourself:

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9 Aug, 2017

Try This: Storytelling for Reproductive Justice

By Nicole Clark, LMSW|2021-08-19T19:45:38-04:00August 9th, 2017|Categories: Equity & Justice|Tags: reproductive justice, Try This|0 Comments

(Image: Renee Bracey Sherman. Source)

“Reproductive Justice can be used as a theory for thinking about how to connect the dots in our lives. It is also a strategy for bringing together social justice movements. But also, it is a practice-a way of analyzing our lives through the art of telling our stories to realize our visions and bring fresh passions to our work.” ~ Loretta Ross, “What Is Reproductive Justice?” (Reproductive Justice Briefing Book: A primer on Reproductive Justice and Social Change)

Why is storytelling so powerful? Because it works. Before video, social media, and other media we use today, many of us remember listening to stories as children from our parents and grandparents. Stories resonate with us and helps us build powerful connections with others. Sharing our story also helps others to build compassion, especially when they haven’t had the same experience.

Storytelling isn’t something new when it comes to advancing Reproductive Justice. Testifying before political leaders, using social media, blogging, podcasting, or video, attending speak-outs, or simply sharing between close friends and loved ones are some examples of how storytelling can be used as an empowerment tool. And today’s exercise will hopefully do just that.

This exercise can be found in the We Are Brave Toolkit: Building Reproductive Autonomy and Voices for Equity, created by Western States Center (with a few adaptations from me). The exercise was co-authored by Karla Castaneda, Diego Hernandez, Oscar Tzintzun, and Rebecca Shine of Momentum Alliance in Portland, Oregon.

Here’s what you need:

Sheets of paper to write on (or notepads)
Writing utensils for each participant
Flip chart paper and markers
Chairs arranged in a circle (or have the participants seated on the floor in a circle if they are able to)

The steps:

There are several parts to this exercise, but I’m focusing on the writing portion. The writing prompt given is

“I am from a body that…”

Using the prompt, spend 15 minutes or so sharing how Reproductive Justice connects with your identities. Being a young person, person of color, woman, trans person, person living with a mental health diagnosis, coming from a poor background, living in a “red” or flyover state, are just some identities we can write about.

Here’s a slight adaptation: In 2011, I spoke on a Congressional Black Caucus panel on on young women of color and reproductive health activism. I wasn’t sure how to craft speech. Jamia Wilson shared this process of connecting my personal story to current problems our communities are facing, and to the larger vision of a world we want:

The Story of Me: Share your story of how Reproductive Justice connects with your identities (This is essentially the “I am from a body that…” prompt)
The Story of Us: Share the current state of how reproductive injustices are impacting your communities using the prompts “We live in a world where…” or the prompt “When I look around my community, I see…”
The Story of Now: Share your vision for reproductive freedom using the prompt “We will have reproductive justice when…”

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2 Aug, 2017

Ask Nicole: 4 Ways to Become Better at What You Do

By Nicole Clark, LMSW|2021-08-19T19:45:05-04:00August 2nd, 2017|Categories: Consulting|Tags: Ask Nicole, consulting|0 Comments

Have a question you’d like to be featured? Let me know.

No one starts out knowing every thing. It takes a while to get there. And when you finally obtain a level of mastery, there will always be more opportunities to hone your skills and expertise.

If you become frustrated because you feel like a novice, amateur or (even worse) a fraud, you’ll never realize your full potential. If you believe that you know everything there is to know, you prevent yourself from learning new ways of approaching your work.

Here are 4 ways to become better at what you do:

Surround yourself with people who are better at what you do

This can be a little intimidating, but if you shift your perspective from one of intimidation to one of opportunity and a willingness to learn, it can be priceless.

One of the benefits of surrounding yourself with people who have a higher level of expertise and/or who have been in your field for some time is that it allows you to not only learn their way of thinking; you can learn about the pitfalls they may have encountered while on the road to honing their knowledge. You probably won’t dodge bullets completely, but you’ll be able to spot those pitfalls more quickly.

Heads-Up: It’s very common to be so inspired by someone else that we may imitate them. Interestingly, you will notice that surrounding yourself with people who are better at what you do often leads to developing your voice from their perspective. Your blogging, podcasting, speaking, social media presence, and more may take on the tone of that person(s). However, the more your confidence grows, the more you’ll be able to develop your own voice and perspective while still being inspired by the people who helped you along the way.

Find paid, free and low-cost opportunities for training and professional development

Back when I had a day job, I LOVED going to one-day or multi-day trainings, many were local to my area and were free. Mostly because it allowed me to be away from the office. I also enjoyed when my employer would invite trainers to the office who facilitated on interesting topics. (Maybe being away from my desk and not doing any work is why I enjoyed those, too).

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28 Jun, 2017

Common Workshop Terminology

By Nicole Clark, LMSW|2021-08-19T19:43:14-04:00June 28th, 2017|Categories: Speaking & Facilitation|Tags: Facilitation, Speaking|0 Comments

Many workshop facilitators have their own style of facilitating, including using their own words or phrases to convey key concepts across to workshop participants. Or sometimes, you may have been in a workshop and have heard terms that you weren’t familiar with and may not have been comfortable asking about them.

Here are some terms I’ve either used for a long time or recently came across that made a lot of sense for me, and resonated with the participants I’ve used them with. Feel free to use the terminology that resonates most with you, or try all of them and see how they resonate with your participants:

Download

I discovered this term from one of my clients. To “download” means to share information you’ve learned. For example, if one goes to a training or workshop or decides to do more research on a topic on their own to share with others, they share what they’ve learned in the hopes that others will absorb the information. Think of downloading a new program on your laptop or desktop and saving it for future use.

Parking Lot/Bike Rack

Sometimes a participant will ask a question that you’re unsure how to answer. Or maybe you and the participants are so engrossed in an activity that asking a question might disrupt the flow of engagement. Saving the question for later in a “parking lot” or “bike rack” allows the facilitator to come back to the question or comment at a later time. You can create a parking lot/bike rack by dedicating a section of the room for participants to write questions or comments on post-it notes to place in that area. Towards the end of the workshop or if there’s a break in activity, go back read some of the questions or comments to share with the rest of the participants.

Modeling

“Modeling” is demonstrating something to your participants. If there is an activity that may be very intricate that it may take participants some time to understand, you show them what to do. Whether it’s showing a movement or performing a writing activity, modeling allows participants to see what they need to do.

Unpack

Sometimes a participant may make a comment or ask a question that receives a level of reaction from participants, and it may be something you’re interested in exploring further. So you’ll respond, “Let’s unpack this.” Unpacking means to take a deeper dive into a topic as a means to uncover more information. It’s important to do this in a way that doesn’t make a participant feel put on the spot, so do this in a way that honors the perspective of the participant while also allowing everyone to add their own insights.

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Try This: The Story of Me, The Story of Us, The Story of Now

Here’s what you need:

The steps:

RAISE YOUR VOICE: Share one way you can use The Story of Me, The Story of Us, The Story of Now process below in the comments section.

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Self Care Corner: Face Your Worst Case Scenario

Try This: Storytelling for Reproductive Justice

Here’s what you need:

The steps:

“I am from a body that…”

Ask Nicole: 4 Ways to Become Better at What You Do

Surround yourself with people who are better at what you do

Find paid, free and low-cost opportunities for training and professional development

Common Workshop Terminology

Download

Parking Lot/Bike Rack

Modeling

Unpack

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