10 Jul, 2019

Ask Nicole: My #1 Rule for Effective Networking

By |2021-08-19T20:42:09-04:00July 10th, 2019|Categories: Consulting|Tags: , |0 Comments

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I (typically) don’t like networking.

I thought it was because I’m an introvert or that it seemed easier when I was in college, or that I’d say something stupid that would ruin my chances of making a great connection.

Some of my most memorable (and odd) networking experiences include:

  • A women coming up to me during an event, handing me her business card (for a service I didn’t need), and walked away.
  • A conference attendee watching me intently as I spoke, and I could tell that they were honing in on catching buzzwords they could use to determine if it would be worth their time to continuing speaking with me.
  • I was contacted about a potential collaboration with someone I’d never met before, and the only reason they were interested in working me was due to my location, but they didn’t know much else about me or if we’d be a good fit.

One day I realized why I don’t like networking: The focus is on what you can get from someone, rather than building an authentic relationship. The next time you have an opportunity to network with someone, ask yourself:

Would I care about this person if they didn’t have something I want?

I recently spoke to a researcher and evaluator. She contacted me, sharing how she and I were connected (we’re members of a few activists groups and listservs, and she reads my blog), and asked to have a conversation with me because we have many commonalities (being women of color with a passion for social justice and culturally responsive research and evaluation) and she’d like to be intentional in building relationships with potential consultants.

What I thought would be a 30-minute conversation ended up lasting a little over an hour. It was a great conversation where we learned each other’s work and the communities we worked with. We’ve decided to set up ongoing conversations to stay connected. I’m always excited to connect with another woman of color in the research and evaluation space to share advice and potential opportunities, but I’m actually more excited at the prospect of getting to know another researcher and evaluator in this case.

My #1 rule for effective networking is to focus on relationship building from place of really wanting to get the know the person as an individual, and less about what you think this person can do for you.

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7 Jun, 2019

Ask Nicole: What Does Your Day as a Consultant Look Like?

By |2021-08-19T20:38:46-04:00June 7th, 2019|Categories: Consulting|Tags: , |0 Comments

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I’m asked this question often, or some variation of it.

I think it’s because people want to probe what it is I’m actually doing with my time because “consulting” can mean different things. Plus, there’s the assumption that I have more time on my hands compared to someone who doesn’t work for themselves.

The short answer is: It depends.

The longer answer is: It depends on what’s occurring at that point in time during a project, which projects are operating simultaneously, what’s going on with my clients, and what’s happening with my own non-client projects.

On any given day, I may have 2-3 client calls, a webinar meeting to either attend or host for a client, prepping for an in-person presentation or workshop, invoicing, planning out my blog content and newsletter editorial calendar, scheduling social media posts, participating in online forums to seek or give advice, writing a project proposal or end-of-program report, 1:1 coaching with client staff, doing an informational interview for someone interested in what I do, or scheduling a meeting with a prospective client.

Some days I get up and prepare for the day in the way I used to when I worked in an office setting, and some days I literally roll over, grab my laptop, and get started. Some days I work from home, or I’ll head over to the nearest cafe or coworking space.

Some days I’m more productive in the morning, where other days I feel more productive in the evenings. You may see people in online blog posts give a by-the-hour breakdown on what they do, but unless I have to do something at a particular time, I allow my day to flow the way it needs to.

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1 May, 2019

Ask Nicole: How Can I Convince Clients to Focus on the Process AND the Outcome?

By |2021-08-19T20:32:56-04:00May 1st, 2019|Categories: Consulting|Tags: , , |0 Comments

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Tammy, a licensed independent clinical social worker and consultant based in the Pacific Northwest, recently sent me a really thoughtful email. Tammy writes:

Hi Nicole, 

First, I just want to thank you for writing your blog, and let you know upfront that this is one of those, “Thank you! I needed to read your website.” kinda emails.

In consulting work, I feel like I’m going to struggle with communicating how design-based thinking and evidence-based decision making (and not necessarily Evidence-Based Programs (EBP)) could be really powerful tools for organizations. Where I live, the agencies that design their own programs are often bootstrapped for cash; and the ones with money will just purchase a curriculum and send their staff to a national training on how to implement that curriculum. To get funding for a lot of things out here, you need to use an EBP. I’m a big fan of evidence-based decision-making processes, but I think most pre-packaged evidence-based programs (at least that I’ve worked with) are like disempowering wet bandaids that never really stick! It seems like most organizations are more willing to pay someone else to train their staff to implement a very structured program that’s already been created than they are to work with someone to design a program that really suits their needs, strengths, and resources (even when they acknowledge they probably would do a better job than the pre-made curriculum!)

So, the question is: how do you help people realize the potential for design-based thinking and evidence-based decision making processes in a non-profit/agency world that has become relatively disempowered in the realm of program design? Have you run into that at all with your consulting work focused on program design? If so, how do you navigate that conversation? 

A few months ago, a prospective client organization came to me about a project opportunity. I had some initial conversations with the client, but I got the sense that what they wanted and what my process is weren’t in alignment.

It was confirmed when the client asked me to further explain one key aspect of my process. The aspect–something that the client initially agreed with and wanted to be included in my proposal–focuses on participatory processes between myself, the staff, and key stakeholders. The client seemed less interested in this aspect and wanted me to tailor my approach to just outcomes.

Over the past year, I’ve developed more of an interest in working with clients to develop, evaluate, and refine their process versus solely focuses on outcomes. So, I knew deep down this wasn’t the project (or the client) for me.

The bulk of my consulting as of late has centered around evaluation, with design thinking included depending on the work scope. I’ve found that clients who’ve hired me to evaluate a specific program have been more rigid in what takes place in our time working together compared to clients that hired me specifically for capacity building purposes that span all of their programs and services.

This comes down to whether the client is focused more on the process or the outcome. Based on my observation, when client organizations are focused solely on outcomes, they’re confined to certain parameters that may be heavily influenced by a funder, things being “evidence-based”, or a deadline. As a result, I have more flexibility with clients that have hired me for building organizational capacity and learning about their programming in a more exploratory manner.

Outcomes center around aspects of a program that led to data that can be reported on, including the number of participants and how they engaged with the program. A more process-centered approach assesses how the program was developed, how it got to where it currently is, and what factors along the way got it there (including staff capacity.)

Ideally, you’d develop a process that addresses both. However, the approach the client wants to take can ultimately decide if you’re going to have a great time partnering with this client or spend most of your time arguing back and forth.

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3 Apr, 2019

Ask Nicole: How Do I Get Friends and Family to Support My Goals?

By |2021-08-19T20:28:27-04:00April 3rd, 2019|Categories: Consulting|Tags: , |0 Comments

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Last week, I was in Chicago to facilitate an evaluation meeting with one of my Chicago-based clients and to co-facilitate a roundtable discussion with them during the 2019 Culturally Responsive Evaluation and Assessment Conference.

When my flight touched down back in New York, I called my dad to let him know that I’d landed. I do this every time I travel somewhere.

While on the phone I’d mentioned to him that, while sitting in one of the conference sessions, I’d gotten an email from a prospective client interested in engaging me on working with them on a 2-3 year project, and how we’d set up a time for the following week to talk about it so that I could determine whether I’m a good fit for the client.

My dad commented, “You’re getting up there in the world”, and that he was happy to hear that things were going well with the business and with my clients.

Over the weekend, I celebrated the 3rd year anniversary of me submitting my resignation letter to my former supervisor, with a final employment date of May 31st. I had no problems staying on to help recruit and train my replacement. But the main reason why I wanted more time was so I could prepare myself to tell my dad that I would be leaving to go work for myself.

My dad is in his early sixties and has been with the same company since he was 18, and prior to my mother’s death in 2001, she’d been with her company for 20 years. I was two weeks away from leaving my job when I finally told my dad. He asked a few questions but didn’t say much after that. 2016 was a good year for my business, but things were very rocky the following year to the point where my family was worried for me. By the end of 2017, my business was moving in a more positive direction, and my dad went from checking in on me on a weekly basis to checking in on me whenever I would call home.

For many, this is the context we grew up in: seeing friends and family work for someone else. And when we share that a goal of becoming self-employed (or any goal for that matter), what we’re looking for is support and confirmation that we can do it.

We want to know that the people we have around us support what we do. Friends and family can be well-meaning, but it’s important to understand that not everyone will understand your goals and may not be able to help you achieve them. Especially if they have not had the same experience. But they do want to support your efforts.

In order to get friends and family to support your goals, you have to be clear about the type of support you want from them. In my case,

Initially, I would encourage friends and family to sign up for my newsletter letter or to follow me on my social media platforms. Once I identified the type of support I wanted from them, I slowly stopped doing this and requested instead for their emotional support but also gave them the opportunity to self-select how they want to support me. Emotional support for me includes checking in on me to see how things are going or sharing with others what I’m doing in my business.

Though I prefer emotional support, I’ve had friends hire me for trainings or projects because they were in a position within their organization to do so, and they believed I was a good fit for their needs. Or they’ve referred a prospective client to me.

The other way you can persuade friends and family to support you? Actually doing the work.

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6 Mar, 2019

Ask Nicole: Should I Stop Responding to Requests for Proposals?

By |2021-08-19T20:26:10-04:00March 6th, 2019|Categories: Consulting|Tags: , , |0 Comments

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Let’s say you go to your dentist because you’re experiencing some tooth pain.

You’ve done your (Google) research to determine what the cause of the pain might be, and have decided that it’s a cavity. You contact your insurance company to see how much it’ll cost to fix the cavity.

You get to your dentist’s office and tell them you need a cavity filling based on what you’ve discovered in your research. Without any questions, the dentist fills the cavity.

A month later, you’re back at the dentist’s office with more tooth pain. That pain ended up being way more than a cavity, and it’s about to cost more to find out what the real cause it. You’re frustrated because you told the dentist that you’re still experiencing tooth pain and the cavity filling didn’t solve the problem.

But can you really be upset with the dentist? After all, they only gave you a solution based on what you thought the real problem was.

This is how it feels to go through the Request for Proposals (RFP) process. If you’re not familiar with what an RFP is, it’s a document developed by an entity looking for a particular service. In my case, it would be consulting services.

The RFP process can be frustrating, and it’s a process I only participate in if the project sounds interesting (or if I’m interested in the prospect of working with a prospective client). The majority of my clients have not come by way of an RFP process, which pretty much gives you the answer to this month’s Ask Nicole question.

But do I really feel that all consultants should abandon the RPF process? Not really, but I do feel that we need to take nonprofits, foundations, and social service agencies to task on how ridiculous this process is in the hopes that they develop a better process that’s beneficial to everyone. There’s a lot left to be desired about the RFP process, but here are five things that bug me about it:

1) It’s an extremely vague process, focusing more on deliverables rather than being open to identifying what’s needed to get to those deliverables (and also figuring out if the process to get to the deliverables is even feasible within the budget and timeframe identified by the client. Which leads to the point #3).

2) The RFP is designed around what the organization thinks they need. As with the dentist example, if you tell your dentist what you think the solution is, it prevents them from doing a further examination to discover what the underlying needs really are and give you an appropriate diagnosis and treatment. I can’t develop an appropriate proposal for a prospective client just based off of what’s in the RFP without knowing some background information on the organization or program that’s more than likely not listed in the RFP.

3) Clients are weirdly vague about how much all of this is going to cost. If we’re being honest, an organization knows how much they’re willing to budget, but none are upfront about it. They’re either afraid to list it because of the belief that the most talented individual or group will believe the budget is too small, or they think they’ll have the upper hand at negotiations.

( I do not know of anyone willing to apply to a job posting that doesn’t have the annual salary listed. It’s tacky and unethical to deny someone the right to determine whether working for an organization will result in pay equity and livable wages. Plus, we all know an organization will eventually go with the consultant or group that costs the least.)

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