This guest post is by the ever-awesome Javania M. Webb. Javania has overcome a rocky childhood from molestation, suicidal attempt/thoughts, and feeling as if she were nothing, to now speaking to women of all ages about the trials and tribulations she has endured. Javania speaks from experience and has a wealth of knowledge on a variety of topics. Following her mission, Javania helps to minimize the mental health implications among (young) women, no matter age, ethnicity, race, and/or sexual orientation. You can find Javania on Twitter or Facebook discussing whatever floats her boat that particular day. Check out Javania’s blog and step into her virtual world.
LGBTQ vs. LGBTQ
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NEWSFLASH… IT DOES NOT MATTER…
Fighting because someone looked at your “lady” too long at the club.
Fighting because someone bumped into you and didn’t apologize at the club.
Fighting because your “lady” is flip at the mouth.
Fighting because your “lady” forced you to pop her ass because she kept badgering you.
Hate because no one understands you.
Hate because you are tired of explaining why you love women.
Hate because someone else is doing better than you.
Hate because you are tired of being looked over.
These examples are simply real and not the end of the problems present in the LGBTQ community. We are fighting heterosexuals, our family, our employers, AND our brothers and sisters who are just like us.
With all of the reports of gays being bullied, stalked, and killed because of being different, one would think that we would stick together and love one another despite the differences we share sans our sexual orientation. I remember hearing “just because one is gay, that does not mean they want to talk or be friends with someone else who is also gay”. This statement is an understatement. Even though I do not like to admit… that statement makes sense…. To those who are close-minded and don’t want to think outside of the box. In the same regards…..the same goes for heterosexuals….. However, heterosexuals have rights when it comes to the ones they love, they can get married, and be on their wife’s or husbands insurance at work, etc.
The National Black Justice Coalition (NBJC) is the leading organization that represents African Americans in the Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgendered, and Queer community. NBJC is fighting for us, fighting old stereotypes and traditions. They are going into the Schools, Churches, and HBCU Universities to get equal rights. They are also fighting the GOVERNMENT. These fights matter… Not the fighting that’s done because you have self-hatred that some chooses to spread among others.
Go look in the mirror to see who you are, really look deep because YOU have to live with whomever you are. If you don’t like who you are, then start fighting and hating THAT person…not someone who has done nothing to you.. While fighting the person you want to get ride of.. dig, dig, and dig to bring out a better person.
We must stop fighting each other because we cannot fight for our rights and ourselves as the same time. Spewing hate is the number one way to isolate yourself. When no one wants to be around you anymore, realize that it was you.
I challenge you to go on a positive journey starting RIGHT now and leave all of the hate and fighting behind you, it’s never too late to start over.
Here are some links where you can start to become a positive non hating/fighting individual:
Thanks for reading, share with your friends and family. Go ahead and take baby steps to not become one of the LGBTQ members spreading hate…
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